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Honestly, I don't know what should I write about him. Am I speechless? Yes!. I never know about him before. I never imagine that he'll be my destiny. In May 2014, I became friend in Facebook with him. From his account, I knew that he's from Lamongan, graduated from one of university in my hometown and at that time he was a journalist in Jayapura, Papua. I didn't feel anything to him. I just though that he was a good friend for sharing information because he's smart.
I don't know when or how we finally have a relationship. We met for the first time at 6th December 2014 in Surabaya.
6th December 2014
That was our first time to know each other physically. At that time, I though that this relationship wouldn't work. There were many reason why I though like that. First, I just knew him from social media, I was afraid that he was unkind people or something like that. My friends also said that I couldn't have relationship with him because they afraid that he was cheater or he had a wife and children (that was my pasca friends' opinion hahaha). That made sense. Second reason that make me feel pessimist with this relationship is the distance. Live long distance relationship is not easy. It's very difficult. I was in Bangkalan and he was in Jayapura. C'mon, it's so far away. I though this relation would gave us many problems specially about communication. The last is about my parents. I'm sure all of parents in this world wanna see their daughter has good husband. But husband that their daughter found in social media is a bad idea. First time I told to my mother that I had relationship with a man that I met in social media, can you imagine her response​? Yes of course she disagree. It was so hard to make my parents believe that he is good man . Those reasons that made me felt doubt on this relationship. But I tried to lived this relationship, I convinced my self that this was one of my way to found my half soul that given by Allah.
Have you ever hear a quote " Distance means nothing when someone means everything"?. That's true. You'll never care about the distance if there is someone far away who you love so much. Now is my third years in this relationship. Sometimes I feel amazed, how can this relationship work well even though we far apart and mobile phone is our only means of communication. It's out of my logic. He know how to make me calm although we didn't met directly. I don't know why but everything he does is magic. Am I overdo? No, that what I feel. I'm surprise about my self. During this relationship, sometimes I became patient and calm people (it's surprising, remember my behavior so far). Finally, I realize something. If by loving each other we can be happy, then what we fight for. I feel it's important to make my partner feel comfort and happy when he has relationship with me, so as much as possible I avoid unnecessary arguments.
He didn't take me as I am. He pushed me to be a better person and get rid of my bad habits little by little. He said that it's not for him but for me in future. Change is always not easy but not impossible. Untill now I still struggle and proceed to defeat the ego and try to be a better person. Not just me, he also struggled. Finally in March 2015, he resigned from his work, back to java, started a new life and continued his study here. It's not easy to left good job and future there, to start everything from beginning here. There is no warranty that  he will get job as good as there. But he never lose hope, he always try his best. I'm so proud of him. And now is my turn to give my best. Right beside him is way I belong, accompany him throughout my life.


23rd April 2017
Hey you, thanks for everything​. For all the love that you gave, for all the time that you stood by me, for always by my side although we are far apart, for all the wrong that you made right, for never give up on me and the last, thank you for choosing me as your life partner, as your future wife. Thank you, my Fathul Qorib.
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